if only we could decide

we have a lot of choices throughout life. one thing we have no say in, is the role we play in someone elses life. the duality of any relationship with anybody. someone very wise said to me that it is easier to bring someone down than to help someone up. i am always the devils advocate, so initially i opposed this thought, but after some reflection, i realized just how right this thought was. we may walk next to someone for a reason other than why that person we are walking with has us walkin next to them, you do not get to decide. recently, i came across an individual that caused a lot of controversy in my life. in my mind, this individual helped me to mess up my life and drive deeper into the ground something that was already going down. said individual however, told me that when we were hanging out i helped keep them off the suicidal path and helped keep their life going smoothly based on everything that was going on in their life. this blew my mind how the same two people could have completely opposite purposes in eachothers life, can exist at the same time.  you will never know what impact you have on someone's life, or the entire extent of it. so be real. there is no time for ego, there is no time to try to maintain someone elses reality. be real and be you, there is only one, and there is a reason for that. you are the missing piece to the puzzle.